Prov. 23: 7 “As a man THINKETH in his heart so IS HE…

            How can such a small scripture have such a deep meaning? And WHAT exactly does it mean? I will tell you from my perspective: 

Recently I watched an informative video called “The Secret”. It opened my eyes to a new and refreshing perspective. As I have thought about this video for the past several days, the above scripture came to mind. Our thoughts and the way we see the world is OUR reality. No one lives in the same reality. Each one is created in the eye of the beholder. We harbor our lives in a bank of our thoughts and feelings. “If you think you can or can’t, either way you're probably right”. “The Secret” talks about how we attract all that comes in our lives. When we are negative we attract negative things and when we are positive, we find more good. All my life I had this belief that I would live a mediocre life and without financial security as my parents did. I viewed myself as a lower class citizen and that’s all I’d ever be. And MAYBE I’ll never be rich, but at least I can reach for more than what I thought possible. What it all comes down to is what power our minds, faith and hope have in our lives. My faith, it seemed, had always been less than unwavering because I didn't REALLY believed in ME, failing to reach for what I really wanted! And perhaps had a hard time trusting in God as well. It took days of deep depression to really question WHAT MY LIFE WAS—less than satisfying. But it was all in MY perspective. If I could train my mind to see MY REALITY as something completely different, then my futuristic world could change drastically in a positive way. In the past I worried about a future I didn't know how to control. The truth is I can’t control everything! But if I have faith, believe in myself and my future, it doesn't matter what happens... I have the ability to attract continuous goodness.The doubt and fear I had was controlling my life; it was where my mind and heart was; it was WHO I WAS. I would come up with all these scenarios, good and bad in my mind. I worried a lot about my future and let my past affect me too much. Today I looked into my future and saw nothing! It’s a clean slate. It was blank! And I can’t tell you how refreshing it was to be okay with seeing absolutely nothing! I know some of the choices I will make in the near future, but I don’t know how they will turn out… But I am developing the unwavering faith to make my dreams come true!   

Please check out these quotes by James Allen: http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/1840987-as-a-man-thinketh

Have we been taught contrary to the way things are supposed to be?

This weekend I attended a family reunion with my extended family. At 28 I am still single and somewhat anticipating the time when I will have a husband and a family of my own. Most of my relatives who are my age are married and have children. Therefore I became an observer. It was interesting to observe the various couples and their relationships. The person who caught the most attention though, was my cousin who is a year older than I and just had her 5^th child. Ever since she was young all she wanted to be was a wife and a mother. She grew up in California where people are a little more liberal. It surprised me that a person with her surrounding had such a desire to want something so simple. Within her first year of collage at BYU (she went to college mainly to find a husband) she met a man; they soon got married and started a family rather quickly. Both of them have always seemed happy and content with their life--at peace. Then I look at myself... I know it is bad to compare, but I can't help it. I can't say in my younger years I was content with something so simple. Marriage wasn't even on my mind till age 22. It seems my attention was on so many different things; I wasn't sure what I wanted. The truth is though, I fear, we are not trained in the proper manner. My mind has reflected a lot on the past or "the old days" when things were a lot different, a lot simpler and there weren't so many options in life. In the 1920's and 1930's women WERE wives and mothers. That's what they grew up to become. They were "trained" to become housewives, raise children, and serve their husbands. There were less divorces and men and women had specific, important, but very different roles. Now here we are today. Men and women seem to almost be competing with each other who is the better sex. This idea or "competition" doesn't really rub me the right way. I, deep down inside, don't feel like it's right. I am religious, and I know the scriptures are true. In few passages God reveals that he made men and women different, but created them as equals. As such, I believe, they should have different roles. I know in our day and time it is not uncommon for the wife to work or take up other roles. And nothing will change and perhaps get farther from where things "are supposed to be." I can't help thinking, that perhaps, I was not brought up with the right ideas about what I'm supposed to be as a woman, how to be a good wife, and serve my husband as I felt my cousin was doing efficiently. Men need women to be women and women need men to be men. I'm not blaming my circumstance on my parents or anyone else; it's just the world I grew up in. It probably does have something to do with how I'm affected by my surroundings and my personality. I have always been somewhat incisive about not just a good marriage choice, but a career as well. Now that I'm older I envy those who found marriage so easy and natural, at such a young age. They can grow together and become one as they are both developing into what they are "supposed to be". I have already made so many decisions on my own and have developed my ideas of how I think things are "supposed to be." All I want now is to have a husband and a family. I enjoy school and learning, but it doesn't bring me the joy I know a family would. On the other hand many may argue that young marriage, or marriage at all, with the wrong person may end in divorce. Divorce way back when was not very common. We are in such an age where abandoning discomfort has become so easy. Our world today has taught us that we can have what we want, when we want it, and it’s all about me. Of course it doesn't affect everyone in the same way. Some of us are very selfish and others don't seem to have a selfish bone in their bodies. The bottom line is we aren't being trained to seek out what, I believe, God intended for us.

Introduction to my blog:

To be honest, I never thought I'd ever blog up the internet. But here I am!

The idea of creating a blog first came to me when I was deep in thought thinking about random ideas I've learned or come to understand better through study and experience; desperately trying to really understand myself, others, and the world I live in. Sociology has been one of my favorite fields of study. Therefore ideas of human behavior, our environment, how we think, act, react and feel is always somewhere in the back of my mind.

I hope you enjoy and find something helpful or intriguing! Feel free to comment, argue or contest my views, opinions and ideas.