Have we been taught contrary to the way things are supposed to be?

This weekend I attended a family reunion with my extended family. At 28 I am still single and somewhat anticipating the time when I will have a husband and a family of my own. Most of my relatives who are my age are married and have children. Therefore I became an observer. It was interesting to observe the various couples and their relationships. The person who caught the most attention though, was my cousin who is a year older than I and just had her 5^th child. Ever since she was young all she wanted to be was a wife and a mother. She grew up in California where people are a little more liberal. It surprised me that a person with her surrounding had such a desire to want something so simple. Within her first year of collage at BYU (she went to college mainly to find a husband) she met a man; they soon got married and started a family rather quickly. Both of them have always seemed happy and content with their life--at peace. Then I look at myself... I know it is bad to compare, but I can't help it. I can't say in my younger years I was content with something so simple. Marriage wasn't even on my mind till age 22. It seems my attention was on so many different things; I wasn't sure what I wanted. The truth is though, I fear, we are not trained in the proper manner. My mind has reflected a lot on the past or "the old days" when things were a lot different, a lot simpler and there weren't so many options in life. In the 1920's and 1930's women WERE wives and mothers. That's what they grew up to become. They were "trained" to become housewives, raise children, and serve their husbands. There were less divorces and men and women had specific, important, but very different roles. Now here we are today. Men and women seem to almost be competing with each other who is the better sex. This idea or "competition" doesn't really rub me the right way. I, deep down inside, don't feel like it's right. I am religious, and I know the scriptures are true. In few passages God reveals that he made men and women different, but created them as equals. As such, I believe, they should have different roles. I know in our day and time it is not uncommon for the wife to work or take up other roles. And nothing will change and perhaps get farther from where things "are supposed to be." I can't help thinking, that perhaps, I was not brought up with the right ideas about what I'm supposed to be as a woman, how to be a good wife, and serve my husband as I felt my cousin was doing efficiently. Men need women to be women and women need men to be men. I'm not blaming my circumstance on my parents or anyone else; it's just the world I grew up in. It probably does have something to do with how I'm affected by my surroundings and my personality. I have always been somewhat incisive about not just a good marriage choice, but a career as well. Now that I'm older I envy those who found marriage so easy and natural, at such a young age. They can grow together and become one as they are both developing into what they are "supposed to be". I have already made so many decisions on my own and have developed my ideas of how I think things are "supposed to be." All I want now is to have a husband and a family. I enjoy school and learning, but it doesn't bring me the joy I know a family would. On the other hand many may argue that young marriage, or marriage at all, with the wrong person may end in divorce. Divorce way back when was not very common. We are in such an age where abandoning discomfort has become so easy. Our world today has taught us that we can have what we want, when we want it, and it’s all about me. Of course it doesn't affect everyone in the same way. Some of us are very selfish and others don't seem to have a selfish bone in their bodies. The bottom line is we aren't being trained to seek out what, I believe, God intended for us.